THINGS YOU MUST KNOW ABOUT BEING A MARRIED COLLEGE STUDENT
5 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW ABOUT BEING A MARRIED COLLEGE STUDENT
Juggling your personal life and your studies is quite a challenge.
With so many things to keep in mind, you might sometimes miss out on some of the important aspects of either your education or your relationships with the people around you.
During college, this is most especially difficult. Most students are not married and are free to mingle with whoever they meet along the way. They would usually start new relationships with their schoolmates.
However to those who are already married, things will surely be different. If you are already legally attached to someone, there are some expectations from you.
We have written out five things you need to be aware of if you are a married college student.
– You don’t have the same amount of freedom to do what single students can do
Once you are married, whether you are studying or not, there will definitely be a huge difference on how you act around other people and on how you do things. Sometimes, before you join a college activity, you might have to first inform your partner or ask for permission.
Sometimes, it can even become more challenging if you are in a long distance relationship. You need to check in on each other constantly and “report” everything that you do to them. You practically need to be honest and value the trust that your partner has given you.
– Having issues with your relationship may affect your focus on studying
Sometimes, you might have a fight with your significant other, just like any other married couples do. This might weigh a lot on your mind and can even cause you some emotional stress, which can then affect your studies. You may tend to lose focus or even consider dropping everything else to make sure that you resolve whatever conflict you have with your partner.
Maintaining relationships is definitely a lot of work. But if you believe in what you and your loved one have, you will definitely put in a lot of effort to make it work, and of course to balance your life as a married person and as a college student.
3.If you’re married, you are expected to act mature
The usual expectation from people is that once you’re married, you are now an adult. With most college students still around their early 20s, some of your younger friends might look up to you for help or advice on how to become a better adult.
However the truth is no matter what age you are in, thinking and acting maturely is not always easy.
Adulting takes a lot of effort and needs constant practice. There will be days that you’ll feel so good about all the decisions you have made or the tasks you have accomplished, but there will be times that you just wanna drop everything and have fun, play games, and just take a time out from life.
Everyone goes through this phase, so it’s okay to give yourself a break every now and then, as long as you pick up where you left off and accomplish everything that you need to get done.
– Going out with your friends is a lot less entertaining
Going out for parties, drinking and socialization is the norm during college. If you used to enjoy going out and hanging around bars when you were single, it will definitely be a lot different once you’re married.
Yes, if your partner is okay with you hanging out, you can still join your college friends, but you will surely need to have a different attitude towards the people that you meet in parties.
You have to be mindful of how you act around other people, given the fact that you are already
– You become the resident parent of your circle
Whether you have kids or not, if your college friends found out that you are already married, they will assume that you are a parent, or practically the most matured person in your group. And with that, people may consider as someone who they can turn to in times of need.
Whether it’s for an advice or any type of help, you’ll become your friends go-to person. Your words of wisdom will be of great value, especially to the younger people in your group.
In fact sometimes, your parental instincts will just kick in, and you will have this sense of being very protective of your friends, to the point that you may start taking care of their needs, checking in on them every now and then and making sure that they are doing okay.
In a way, this is healthy because you get to share your thoughts on some things about your friends and they will consider your words to be valuable. But sometimes, it can be a lot more stressful for you, because you’re practically looking after other people, instead of just taking care of your own needs or your significant other’s or your own kids’ needs.
Given your current marital status, you will most likely be considered as a more mature individual. There will always be good and bad sides to living a married life while you are in college. But the most important thing that you have to remember is the reason why you are where you are in the first place.
If graduating from college is one of your and your partner’s first step to living a blissful married life and to starting a family, then focus on your goal of getting good grades and graduating.
Knowing how to balance your life between being a husband or wife and being a student is highly essential. There is definitely no shortcuts to earning a degree. At the same time, there is no easy way to maintaining a harmonious married life.
For both, you will need to exert some effort to make sure that you are making the most out of your college experience and your married life.